The famous American publisher who inspired “Mr. Big” from Sex and the City began his life with humble beginnings. After losing his high-profile job, he quietly stepped away from a career he had devoted over two decades to. Let’s dive into the real story of the man behind this iconic character.
John James Preston — known as “Mr. Big” — is a beloved character in HBO’s Sex and the City, portrayed by Chris Noth.
The series follows four confident, stylish women — Carrie, Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte — as they navigate love, friendship, and life in New York City. No matter how different their journeys are, their bond remains unbreakable.
At the heart of the show is Candace Bushnell, the author, journalist, and TV producer who wrote the original Sex and the City column for The New York Observer. Her work quickly transformed into a bestselling book and a cultural touchstone.
In a 2017 interview, Bushnell explained that the show’s themes resonate deeply because they reflect universal human experiences: the search for love, choosing independence, and learning through relationships.
Bushnell admitted she didn’t believe Carrie and Mr. Big would have stayed together in real life but said the show became too popular to go against fans’ wishes. As she put it, “It’s show business, not show art.”
She also revealed that Mr. Big was based on real-life publisher Ron Galotti, adding, “I still keep in touch with Ron; he lives in Vermont.”
Unlike his TV counterpart known for his playboy image, Galotti was known for being a serial monogamist.
Galotti grew up in modest circumstances, born in the Bronx and raised in Peekskill, New York. After losing his father at age nine, he helped on a local farm.
Though he struggled in school, he struck a deal to graduate by joining the military. This led to his service in the Air Force during the Vietnam War, stationed in the Philippines.
He married his first wife, Donna Kalajian, and moved to Florida, working as a waiter and starting a heating and cooling business. When that failed, they returned to New York, living in her mother’s basement.
Galotti then found a job at a publishing company, but tragedy struck when their young son died in a car accident. The marriage didn’t survive much longer.
His career took off in the late 1970s at Hearst, where he became publisher of Country Living and met his second wife, Lisa Wilcox, who also worked in publishing.
Galotti later took on big roles at Condé Nast, leading magazines such as Mademoiselle, Condé Nast Traveler, and Vanity Fair. He eventually returned to lead Vogue alongside Anna Wintour.
In 2003, while at GQ, he was dismissed. A year later, he left New York for a quieter life in Vermont with Wilcox. Many doubted he would stay, but over 20 years later, he still calls Vermont home.
His new rural life is full of quiet, unexpected moments — like the time he found a baby hawk in the fireplace and called for a towel to help it. This shift symbolizes his move from bustling city life to peaceful mornings surrounded by nature.
Today, Galotti spends his time chopping wood, raising chickens, and enjoying a slower pace. “I’m not sitting in the chair anymore,” he remarked, embracing his new lifestyle.
From glamorous boardrooms to a farm in Vermont, Galotti’s life has taken a remarkable turn. Despite a successful publishing career and public spotlight, he now lives simply and happily with his wife, Lisa Wilcox, finding fulfillment in nature and quiet moments.